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What should I do? Because women in this situation defy the stereotype, they sometimes feel shame and inadequacy.
I must not be pretty or sexy enough. Is there something wrong with me? Practically every couple has difficulties to overcome in their sexual relationship. Each husband and wife has their own unique set of strengths, weaknesses, and areas of incompatibility. In fact, the Bible assumes that both the husband and wife have sexual needs. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In Wives need more sex same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.
Interesting, huh? Have you and your husband talked about this issue? Because these are such sensitive topics, many couples only address sexual differences when they are fighting. Instead of talking, they settle into patterns that lead to rejection and frustration.
You initiate or hint toward intimacy and he turns you down. You get angry and lash out or avoid him. This kind of pattern becomes ingrained until even the mention of sex becomes a powder keg. Both husband and wife feel misunderstood and marginalized. You will never solve the problem until you learn to talk about it with the goal of understanding each other and getting on the same team. One of the first things to do is start a conversation with your spouse and not assume the worst.
This has not only helped my internal struggle, but our marriage as well. Problems or conflicts become much more manageable when you can talk them through without blaming or hurting one another. Spend time asking God to show you the right time, to give you a sensitive heart, and the right words to express yourself. We need to distinguish between a wife who has a higher sex drive and a marriage in which the husband never wants sex.
One situation represents a normal difference in desire while the other likely indicates a deeper underlying problem. While men typically think about sex more often than their wives, this is not always the case.
There are some men who are more comfortable expressing love verbally or by enjoying activities with their wives. Other men avoid initiating sexually because they are afraid of rejection, but are eager to engage when their wife initiates. Sometimes, the problem is a physical roadblock, like thyroid disease, low testosterone levels, medications that interfere with sex drive or performance, obesity, or exhaustion.
Stress, grief, and depression can also lower sex drive. Also ask yourself if your husband feels like you dominate or overpower him. Your husband could also be dealing with an emotional trauma like childhood sexual abuse. As difficult as it is for a woman to talk about molestation, it is infinitely more uncomfortable for men. Also, an extramarital affair, habitual masturbation, a sexual fetish he is too ashamed to admit, or porn use could all come between the two of you.
A lot of men were introduced to porn as boys and engaged with it throughout their teen and young adult life. His brain is trained only to respond to more and more graphic sexual stimuli, so he is unable to enjoy normal sex with his wife. As you might imagine, it is very difficult for a husband to admit to his wife that he is engaged with porn or some other form of immorality. Instead, he makes excuses and often continues secretly with porn, masturbation, or other sexual outlets.
The encouraging news is that we can rewire our brains to learn a healthy sexual response. As porn impacts more and more marriages, God is raising up men and women to minister in this area of redeeming male and female sexuality.
The truth is that while marriage is intended to fulfill our sexual needs and desires, millions of married men and women are sexually unsatisfied. Many who bail on marriage do so because of their sexual disappointment and frustration. Even the Bible says that sex is an important part of marriage that should not be neglected.
You may have a spouse who is unwilling or unable to sexually satisfy you. While sex is an important part of marriage, remember that it is not the most important part.
God cares deeply about the covenant you and your husband made with each other. He also understands the limitations and longings of these bodies of ours. I would encourage you, friend, to pour out your heart to the Lord. Ask Him to bless your sex life but also ask Him to use the difficulties and frustrations to help you become more like Him. Juli Slattery. Used with permission of Moody Publishers. If your needs are vastly different than your husband's needs, work together to find the right balance or compromise for mutual sexual fulfillment.
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